Tuesday, May 8, 2012

Too Much to Say

Sunday walk
Dear Big Kid, 
It has been a long time since I have written an inventory of sorts documenting your abilities and progress.  Now that you're just past three and growing like crazy I feel the need to do an overview because the pile of Henry's are building at an alarming rate.  You change so quickly now and in surprising ways.  My Henry of last week is not my Henry of this week.  Some days I wish I could keep a list of all the interesting conversations we have but they can often be long and arduous often leaving me stunned at your understanding of the world and your ability to reason.  You not only offer explanations of things but you also inject your opinion; which is often well thought out.  
A few recent discussions, 
Yard work!
       +  Mammals vs egg laying animals...why? where? babies, how are they different....
       +  Why don't worms have faces?  You don't like this, living things without faces.  You  told me yesterday.  A couple of months ago you asked me why worms didn't have faces.  I 
explained they live in the dirt where it is dark they don't need them in their world.  You sat for a moment and said, "Well, I guess it is good they don't have faces, if they did when they came out of the ground they would need sunglasses.  I still don't like it though."
       +  Why can't I have a drivers license, "I mean I could sit on your lap and drive right?"
       +  Back to the faces, why don't cars of eyes?
       +  Your adoption story.  You like to talk about how JoJo choose us to be your mom and dad.  You talk about it in many different ways.  I am really pleased that you are understanding the notion that before you were born we didn't know it was you, Henry proper just yet.  Adoption experts suggest that it is important to stress that a child isn't placed because of who they are but rather because a baby takes a lot of care and birth mothers are either not ready to parent or not in a position to parent another child which could be of detriment to all the children involved, so they make a responsible, loving, gut wrenching choice to find a family who can.
You've been talking about wanting a sibling for a while and you told me the other day, "I'm going to tell you a story about a little deer family.  The one deer found a family for their little baby deer and gave him a mommy, daddy, and a Bahboo and grandma p and a Krispie and Currie and a Grandpa Tim and a Grandma Jean and a Jonny and Tony...and then he got a baby brother, the end."  I've never used the words that when JoJo chose us "she gave you ..." but it would be no surprise that this spontaneous sign of gratitude on your part swelled me a up a little.  You are a little confused that a new sibling won't be joining our family through JoJo.  I told you a sibling would have their own birth family, their own JoJo, but let's face it there is only ONE JoJo in the world.  You shrugged this one off for now. 
     You are in love with living creatures big and small, creepy and crawly, furry and fuzzy.  Worms, frogs, beetles, birds, dogs, turtles, bunnies and fish; it doesn't matter. If it has a face you want to take care of for a while.
    You are more or less potty trained now!  You love to pee in the back yard, on a tree, my car tire but now you go to the bathroom at home all on your own.  Just as I think I am going to find you pulling out all of the toilet paper you are standing there doing your business.  You're growing so fast.  Just the past few days you've began making it to the potty to poop.  I know at some point I will need to cut out the poop and pee talk because it will be an invasion of your privacy but for now I want to document this because it shows a lot  about your independent personality... before making it to the potty you would go in your pants, go to the bathroom, take your pants off, clean out your underwear in the toilet and flush it all down and clean up anything that may have gotten anywhere.  This is a bonus for Mommy but also you taking responsibility for yourself.  It isn't weird, you aren't trying to hide it.
   I love how you want to snuggle, pat my back, make jokes with me and give me kisses.
   You are specific about what clothes you like to put on.   Just this morning you weren't happy that I put a plain white t-shirt on you for school.  You want your shorts to fit a specific way and love a good t-shirt.
Daddy and Henry on Record Store Day 2012
  We asked if you'd like to move your room around a few weeks ago and you were game.  You choose where to put your bed and now you've been sleeping there every night, but Sunday.  We think you sense that Daddy will be going to work in the morning and you tell us, "I just need to be near you." Melt.
  Your mood can be over all more stable but at times you can flip from happy to sad in a second.  We've been workin' the whine out of your voice by ignoring high pitched requests, reminding you to take a deep breath and helping you rephrase your frustration.  It is improving.
  You still love to read and have been looking at books on your own but you must...know...what...it...says and so we read often.  About a month ago you started "writing" lists for me to go to the grocery.  I love how cute this is, and so like Mama.  If I don't make a list on my own you often remind me.
  Your favorite color is green, you love flan, snacks, snacks, snacks of any kind.  Your imagination is going full steam right now.  You love playing "you're Henry, I'm Mommy"  "superhero"  "Diego from Ice Age" "Doctor" "Back to the Future" and not quite my favorite but where I am a cow and you're a farmer.  One that has worked out in my favor is Curious George, that's right, you make Mommy play a monkey.  If you are misbehaving and I talk in a monkey voice, I can stop you in your tracks!  You'll turn around come back to me, take my hand and say, "No, No George you need to ..."  At least I have one sure fire trick to get you to behave...even if I look a little wacka-doo in public yellin' after you "EHH OOOH EHH UH AH OOOH."  Eh, actually most moms of a 3 year old would get it.  Slow down growing up Henry.     There are so many things...this is already long but it is so hard not documenting every second...I can go on forever about my sweet Henny.  I also know this special time together with out the distractions of school or activities is limited.   I love you baby.  Love, Mama

Thursday, April 26, 2012

Little Mister

Dear Peep, 
You love taking a bath.  You love it even more now that you have your own "shaver" and shaving cream.  We found this fun little product.  You followed directions as Daddy taught you how to shave.  You were pretty serious about it, then started "shaving" your entire body.  So cute!
Love, Mama

Wednesday, April 18, 2012

Tech-knowledge

Dear Peep, 
At our weekly library visits you've been very interested in trying to work the computers for some time.  You have had a hard time listening to instructions on how to use a mouse or how to work a game, until now!  I figured out that there is a giant bookshelf with hundreds of computer games just waiting to be played.  I chose a Caillou game and Curious George game for phonics and the alphabet.  You listened intently as I explained the roller ball mouse, how to click and helped you understand a couple of words on the screen.  
YOU DID GREAT! and clearly felt proud of yourself.  You enjoyed the games and experiencing success, and learned a few things. I love that!  You spent about 20 minutes and then HAD to show Daddy what you know about using a computer.  He came in to give you lots of praise and cheers.  It is awesome to see you learning. 
Love, Mama

A Bow Wow Ruff Ruff Birthday Party

Dear Henny, 
After buying a gift and present bag you were all set for our friend Ruby's 6th birthday party.  This was perfect despite the rainy day.  You were so proud of your present, you insisted on carrying it in yourself; a Headbandz game and googled eyed, puffy fruit stickers.  You also insisted on carrying it to Ruby and even after setting it on the present table you retrieved it a few more times to take it to her.  Her party was a dog theme complete with a dog ear making table, bone shaped cookie decorating table, face painting and dog bowls of snack goodies.  You walked around like a big boy with the older kids and especially enjoyed playing super hero with Daddy (the bad guy) in an empty room full of soft balls flying around.  When it came to present opening you had to keep trying to edge your doggie bag into Ruby's lap.  You had a great time!  
You're ready for another party.  I can't wait to take you to many more as you gather up friends.
Love, Mama

Monday, April 9, 2012

Hoppy Easter

Dear Peep,
We had a low key Easter at home together, just the three of us.  I spent a little time in the yard moving some rocks left over from our pool removal.  While I was working you'd flit in and out of the house between me and Daddy.  Then I found at toad!  I peeked into the house and said, "HENRY!!! I found a toad!"   I retrieved your little creature keeper and we put it in there.  You said, "Oh mommy! I am so grateful you found a toad!"  We let you play with torture it for a while.  For the most part you were gentle and oh so full of enthusiasm for you little toad.  You wore it around your neck for a pit, inspecting it frequently.  I went back to work and asked you not to take it in the house, which you promptly did.  Minutes later you sprung out the back door exclaiming, "The toad got away! It is under the couch!"  With a quick re-catch I guided you outside.  You asked me to get a picture of you and your bumpy buddy.  
Can you find him on your head
We allowed you to play with him a while longer, then saddened you by letting you know it was time to release him back to his toady world.  You decided to place him in your little garden amongst the carrots.  
20 minutes later you went back to check on him and he had hopped back to toady world.  May we catch many more animals to explore together.  
Love, Mama

Friday, April 6, 2012

Rails to Trails

Dear Peep, 
We had a calming Sunday last week making our way across the B-Line trail in town.  The B-Line is an old train track turned into a paved walking, biking, jogging, running trail.  It is super clean, well lit and a lot of fun last week with you.  We enjoyed meeting up halfway with your Aunties.  You even rode on Krispie's handle bars for a short distance.  We are grateful to get to spend time with family and to enjoy a nice day.  It was enough entertainment for you, on the way back you snuggled up next to Daddy and fell asleep with nearly a kerplunk.  Krispie and Currie are waiting a new niece any day now!  Perhaps you can make a new friend when she makes her appearance. 
Love, Mama

Thursday, April 5, 2012

The Force is Strong with this One

Dear Peep Skywalker,
Mama's cousin Ricky wasn't able to make it to your party but he dropped off a light saber and super hero decals to Grandma P and Bahboo's.  I had to give this birthday present honorable mention.  Why?  It is the first thing you ask for when you wake up, you tell strangers in line at stores that you have a "real, working light saber at home", you challenge Daddy to duels and we can use this thing as leverage when you decide to act up!  

Your first night with your Jedi light saber you took it to bed with you.  After Daddy and I were ready for bed I came to check on you and found you sleeping outside of our bedroom door with it nestled beside you.  When I picked you up to put you back into your bed your sleeping arm clutched tighter to insure it traveled with you.  We've also been able to correct obstinate behavior by using phrases such as, "Jedi's are all about patience Henry." or "Jedi's are calm and in control of themselves Henry."  Paired with the ship Uncle Gary got you full fledged Star Wars mania is taking hold.  
We love seeing your imagination busting out.  Nothing makes us all geeky more than hearing you playing by yourself telling stories.  
Love, Mama

*Thanks cousin Ricky for being so thoughtful, sorry you and the kids couldn't make it to the party but we appreciate you thinking of our boy on his big #3.